Communication

When people communicate I think they are always trying to recreate they're experience for whoever it is they are trying to communicate to. If they're experience is not coming through or being understood then I think there will always be a breakdown in communication. I believe however that it is the responsibility of the listener to let the experience of the communicator in. Once achieved the listener has no choice but to react from the other persons experience and therefore create a relatedness and understanding of the communicator that can contribute to an affinity between the two. It is in that affinity that I believe real communication occurs. Even in the face of disagreement.

There is nothing you can do about the way people do things, the way people behave or the way people treat you. People will always be people and behave like people always have. You can't change, help, teach or save anybody. Never. But you don't have to go through life being the victim of a world full of people who create frustration and conflict in your life. Feeling like a victim is the result of giving up your power and giving others the power to dis empower you.

The only thing you have control over is the way you listen to people, the way you can let things in, accept, forgive and then act from love. People will always disappoint you if your listening of them is from disappointment. But once you start listening to people from a different place, a place of compassion and love, acceptance and forgiveness then they can never disappoint you again because you will have destroyed the realm of "disappointment" all together. What opens up is the freedom to feel and react in ways that empower you and your relationships to people instead of in ways that create conflict, confusion, disappointment, frustration and pain.

It's all harder said then done, but it's always good to be reminded that in any circumstance you have a choice. You can choose to live in the types of emotions that feed your insecurities and fears, which in turn destroys your relationships and affinity to other people, or you can choose to let go of that old model of being and step into the realm of freedom and acceptance. I know that when I have succeeded in letting go of whatever habits my ego is addicted to, I feel much calmer, much more free and much more content with everything and everyone.

People are who they are and they will never change. The true question is this: can you love them regardless? Even when they don't love you? Can you exist in that love so that when people are around you they will have an experience of you as love? Because when people start to experience you as love they become extremely attentive and will never let you down.